Have you ever felt unworthy of love?
Like you are not good enough for a fulfilling relationship, inferior as if an imposter, or rejected by society– including those closest to you such as family or even the church? I can relate. I’ve experienced these feelings firsthand, and I understand what it’s like.
I am now a strong woman, am actively involved with church, a great mother, a support group facilitator for trauma survivors, a published author, have a Master’s degree in Pastoral Counseling, and am a certified Christian life coach. This is who I am now. My past was different. My colorful past is why I am able to “get it” and help without judgment.
My Past
Brace yourself, for this is the type of past people usually keep hidden. I engaged in prostitution. I was trafficked by someone I loved and trusted. I have suffered the loss of a child. I have been a victim of domestic violence. I have been encouraged to use drugs, forced to use drugs, and also used by my own free will. I actively engaged in self-harm as a coping mechanism. This is my real past and I will not pretend that it wasn’t. However, that was my past life and I am not that person anymore. Through the holy power of Jesus, I was made into a new creation. Healing required acceptance, and it took years of being away from that life for me to be able to admit to my past reality without crying.
Rather than stay in my comfortable safety bubble of secrecy and shame, I confess so that I can utilize my past experiences and ability to overcome everything and start over to help others. No matter what you have been through, you can move forward and have a better future than you have now. Gain motivation from someone whom you know has successfully moved forward from low depths, won’t judge you, and can help you reach your goals. I am honest and forthright about what I experienced—not to scare people away—but to give others hope for their own transformational changes. As an ISFJ, I would be honored to help you.
How I got to where I am now
I won’t sugar coat it. It took real work to get sober, get away from my abuser, change my lifestyle, educate myself, and finally believe that I was worthy. Sharing my past is important so that you will know that I am not simply a good student but also have real-life hard experience. Too often, we seek help from people who have no idea what our lives are like or who have never really suffered themselves. We may want to be like them, but we are not. And to hold ourselves up to the same standard as people who lack trouble or trauma and are succeeding can leave us feeling worse and fail. I may not be the role model most have in mind, but I am certainly an example of someone who was very low then rose up, made life changes, rearranged priorities, and accomplished many goals. I am not your pastor nor am I here to teach you about the Bible; my job is to help coach you to a better self in alignment with Christian principles. If you believe that I can help you, then I can.
